Reweaving Sex, God, and Money as Pathways to Coherence
Our annual process of excavation, connection, and choice.
Hey friends, I’m currently preparing for the May 11th start of Sex, G⟡d, & Money, the 12-week journey of the summer course I’ve created with
that has become one of the most meaningful containers we tend each year.This essay is part of that preparation.
Yes, we’re enrolling. Yes, this is an invitation. But more than anything, this is a living inquiry. A sharing the story of how this came to form. A reflection on the work that continues to shape us. A glimpse into the questions we return to, again and again.
We’ve both felt the weirdness of being sold to and selling things online. Which is why, when we share about our work, we try to make sure it’s meaningful. That it actually offers something of value—whether or not you choose to join us this season.
So here is a story. A thread we’ve been following. A weaving of insight and inquiry. And whether you simply read it and carry it with you, or feel a pull to explore the journey more deeply, we’re honored to be in conversation with you.
Sexuality, spirituality, and finance are three areas of our lives that are so powerful that they have become critical to the mechanisms of control within our culture. These currents are so intimate, so powerful, so fundamental to life, that they’ve been filtered through centuries of scripts, stories, rules, and roles to control us. Our cultures teach us how to desire, what to worship, and who or what is worth our labor, our love, our longing.
But what happens when we begin to choose for ourselves?
When we stop to take back our power? When we take the time to excavate the root belief systems we hold in our bodies? When we begin to follow the threads of connection between these powerful currents? What happens when we choose how we relate to these forces on our own terms?
This is how it began:
On a warm spring day much like this one, two years ago, Seth and I took a long drive to a local produce stand. (If you’re new here, is my husband and creative partner and we are always learning and growing and developing systems for collective development and healing together.)
I remember that drive so vividly. The sun, the open road, our five-month old baby napping in the carseat, and the electric sense of clarity that poured through us by the time we pulled into the farm.
Seth had recently received the consent of a client of his to share the client’s story with me so I could become a part of the support team. Seth often coordinates in collaboration with therapists, bodyworkers, psychedelic guides, and other practitioners. With this client’s blessing, I joined the circle.
This person had already done profound work healing complex childhood trauma with great care and courage. And yet, something still blocked his ability to commit fully to his creativity, to his partnerships, to himself. It was in reflecting on his story that we began to see more clearly than ever before: the interwoven nature of religious trauma, sexual trauma, and money trauma. These tangled patterns keep so many of us locked in loops we long to be free from, To do so requires a methodical untangling of a complex web of social, somatic, and spiritual beliefs.
As we pulled in to the dirt road of this farmstand about 30 minutes drive from our home, we were buzzing with excitement about the clear process we would design for this client and anyone else ready to reclaim these areas of their lives on their own terms. Three phases: excavating the belief systems we’ve inherited, connecting the dots between sex and spirituality, sex and money, and money and spirituality, and choosing how we want to relate to each of these currents in our lives moving forward. It was clear to us that this was something we wanted not only to offer to others, but that we ourselves would benefit from going through again and again. An annual summer course was created.
By then, we had already spent years integrating what we learned in seminary about religious trauma, systems of belief, and the possibilities of post-traumatic growth into both our professional work and our everyday lives. These ideas took on even greater life and embodied breakthroughs when Seth completed his training in trauma-informed sexology and sexological bodywork, rooted in a lineage-based school of Tibetan Tantra. (You can read his recent essay “Pleasure Is the Portal to Integration, Not Escape” here.)
What we were learning wasn’t abstract. It was embodied. Practical. Transformative.
And when we began our studies with Trauma of Money in the spring of 2023, the threads all started to weave together. But it was through the lens of this particular client’s journey that something clicked—a realization that continues to shape the work we do to this day.
Sex. God. Money.
These are the realms of life we are told to never talk about at the dinner table.
To keep hidden, even from ourselves. To feel shame about. And yet, these currents shape our lives every single day. Our choices. Our self-worth. Our relationships. Our capacity to feel joy, pleasure, trust, choice, and freedom.
How can we possibly reclaim our lives if we’re afraid and unable to look at these currents with clarity and confidence and a belief that we can choose how we relate to them on our own terms?
What if your body was your teacher?
Imagine meeting your own body, and the body of your lover, not through the fragmented gaze of performance or prescription, not through the filter of what you learned through the crash course of porn or adolescent desire or bad experiences, but as living, breathing teachers. What might you learn if you entered the landscape of intimacy as a student, not a performer? Not as someone trying to get it right, but someone willing to be present? Willing to be changed by what is revealed?
And what if that same willingness shaped your relationship with the divine? What if your body became your primary access point to connection with the sacred—by whatever name you call it? Can you imagine a spirituality for yourself that is boldly and beautifully integrated with your sexuality? What if your spirituality became something not prescribed and judged by powers outside of you, but alive, every day, joyously and creatively, through you?
And what if your relationship with money felt just as good, just as joyful, just as pleasurable as your relationship with sexuality and spirituality can be? What if you fell in love with money as a vehicle of choice for yourself and others? What might happen if you located, in your body, where old and stale ideas about money lived, and you lovingly offered them to the compost, allowing them to decompose and turn into the fertile soil of a new story for the rest of your life?
Here’s what we’ve come to see:
These three currents are not separate issues to be solved.
They are deeply interconnected threads in the ecology of our being.
When we isolate them, we lose the capacity to see how they shape and inform one another. But when we operate from awareness of their interdependence, something extraordinary becomes possible: coherence.
Changes ripple not only through one area of life, but through all of them because we are complex, beautiful, living systems.
In this light, we see these currents then not as problems to be solved, but as fields of potential.
Sex is not just about intimacy—it’s about truth. Expression. Aliveness. How we inhabit our bodies. How we relate to power and vulnerability and being completely seen. How we give and receive.
God is not just about belief—it’s about wonder. Reverence. The sacred pulse within the mundane. Our capacity to be in relationship with something greater, something deeper, something timeless and alive.
And money is not just about transaction—it’s about value. Safety. Resource flow. What we believe we deserve. How we hold, circulate, and steward our energy.
Each of these currents is about longing and belonging.
Each of these currents touches the nervous system. Each evokes stories we didn’t choose but carry nonetheless. Each holds within it the possibility of transformation if we’re willing to listen.
That’s what Sex, G⟡d, & Money was designed for: a space to begin that listening. To walk into the terrain of these three powerful forces not with an agenda, but with openness. With tools. With time. With others. With support.
The structure we created (three phases over twelve weeks) isn’t a formula. It’s a rhythm. One we’ve felt again and again in our own lives. We begin with excavation, with tracing and unearthing what’s been buried. Then we move into connection, where the threads reveal themselves and new understanding emerges. Finally, we enter choosing, where we begin to live into new relationships with these currents. This process isn’t a race to a finish line, but a rite of passage into a more conscious and empowered state of being for the rest of your life.
This work is not linear. It’s spiralic. Cyclical. And every time we return to it, we discover something new.
Though of course we’ve created this program and develop it further every year, I want to be really clear that we are not presenting a new dogma or a “right way“ to approach any of these things. (Though we do offer tools, frameworks, and practices that can open new possibilities for you!)
More than anything, we believe in the power of embodied inquiry, and in the collective transformation that becomes possible when we walk alongside one another with curiosity, compassion, and commitment to a more life-affirming way of living for all of us.
We offer this with deep prayers for what becomes possible individually and collectively when we begin to relate to these powerful currents with more awareness, more choice, and more love.
Whether you join us for the twelve-week journey this summer, or simply carry these questions into your own rhythms and reflections, we’re grateful to be in conversation with you.
This work isn’t about fixing, it’s about remembering.
It’s not about performance, but presence.
It’s not about doing more, but being in right relationship.
With your body.
With your longing.
With the web of life we all belong to.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about the connections between these currents in our culture and within your own life in the comments below, and really warmly welcome you to join us this year. We begin May 11th.